I’ve learned throughout my darkest of times that I need all the help I can get. I need a support system and positive thinking! Someone that tells me, “Keep up the good work, sweetie!” “You’re doing great!” “I know you can do this and I’m here for you.” I didn’t realize how important it was for me to have someone by my side telling me that everything was going to be okay and that I could do it! Those of you who have taken the time to read about my sweetheart know that he is my cheerleader. I’ve been blessed with others in my life who have been there for me to get me through rough patches.
My Oldest Son
When this boy was about 3, he came into my bedroom one day while I was wallowing in my misery. He was excited about the day. He came in with a big smile, happy to tell the world “Good Morning!” I just wanted to sleep and not do anything, but, you know, motherhood. He stood at my bedside and looked at me with a big smile and said, “Good morning, mommy! I’m hungry” I told him good morning, but I laid there mustering up the energy to face yet another disappointing day. He turned around in the doorway and said something that changed my life. “Mommy, let’s go! Today is going to be a great day!” I instantly cried my eyes out. My little boy didn’t understand what was going on in my life. He didn’t understand that I wanted to rid my family and my friends from my presence. But somehow (by the grace of God, I’m certain), he understood that I just needed to hear that I can look at today as “another disappointment” or I can view it as ” an opportunity.”
Communicating with my Therapist
About a week after my son said these words to me, I told my therapist what my son had said. I told him that I’ve had a defining moment. I was so excited to tell him about what my son had said and that my perspective is going to change. It was going to be hard and I knew that. It was going to take a lot of practice to change my mindset. My mind is so used to going straight to the assumption that the day was going to be a disappointment.
Today is going to be a great day!
I’ve used this phrase several times a day to get myself through disappointments. I know things aren’t perfect. They’re not supposed to be. I’m here to learn and grow and I have an opportunity to learn from the experiences.
Today is going to be a great day! I can feel it! Repeat this to yourself when you don’t feel like getting out of bed. Use some kind of a visual reminder to help you to remember this. Use sticky notes! I’ve also created this cute reminder if you would like to print it and use it yourself. I have this on my wall just before I leave my bedroom every day.
Even if you don’t feel like you have cheerleaders at your side telling you that they believe in you. I’m here to tell you that I BELIEVE IN YOU! Today can be a great day! It CAN be! I know it’s so hard to believe it. It may even be impossible to say it. I have felt that before! Keep telling yourself that today is going to be a great day! Say it OUT LOUD! I know that sounds weird, but you will understand the power of saying it out loud when you do it. Learn what you can from your experience today. Watch people. Hold your head up. What can you learn?
Do you need support?
If you truly feel like there is no one in your life supporting you through your hardships, please know that you are not alone! I’m very happy to hear your story and would be more than happy to listen. I’m a really good listener. Remember there are doctors, therapists, and counselors that can help you through your rough spots. There are also support groups all over. I belong to a few groups on Facebook that support mental illnesses and are very supportive. If you would like to start your own support group, go to this link and you can even be a cheerleader for someone else. You can also go to this link for an online support group
I believe in you! You can do this! Today is going to be a great day!