It’s been one of those days. You know what I mean. You’re not sure how many more diapers you can change before your skin falls off. They’re so raw from the dozens of times you’ve washed them today. Or, how many more toddler tantrums you can put up with before you swear off grocery shopping forever. You don’t know how many more teenage outbursts and insults you can handle before you ship them off to live with their great aunt.
You don’t know how much longer you can go without having a friend. I don’t just mean a friend that offers to take your kids for you every once in a while or says “hey, we need to go to lunch sometime!” I mean, in the words of Anne Shirley, “a bosom friend.” Because, let’s face it, even though your hubby is your best friend, it’s not the same.
They don’t seem like small things
You’re not sure how many more meals you can make when every meal is a battle. You don’t know how much more laundry you can muster up the strength to fold, or not fold, or just let pile up in the laundry room. You don’t know how long it will be before your very tight-fitting clothes fall apart. Because, honestly, it’s been years since you bought yourself a nice, really nice,
Family Home Evening is non-existent. Because, every time you assign one of your children a task, they don’t follow through. Or, you completely forgot, because, parenthood. Then, you feel guilty because you forgot. So, you recommit. Next week will get better. And, it’s not and the cycle starts all over again.
You’re trying your darnedest to implement Come, Follow Me for your family and it’s just not working. Every method, suggestion, bulletin board, lesson idea, is not working. You want to follow the prophet and the church leaders, but everything you’re trying is failing.
Sometimes, going to church is hard. Again, the guilt sets in. Shouldn’t
Parents, I get it
I know. I’ve been there. I get every single word of it. And although it’s hard to get through these days and you want to believe that nothing you do matters, it’s important to know how it does matter. These little things, even though they don’t seem little are just that, little things.
By Small and Simple Things
Isaiah said, “Therefore thus saith the Lord God, Behold, I lay in Zion for a foundation a stone, a tried stone, a precious cornerstone, a sure foundation.” (Isaiah 28:16)
“By small and simple things are great things brought to pass.” (Alma 37:6)
As parents, we are laying the foundation for greater things to come. Our kids notice our efforts. Even when we think they are completely oblivious to these small and simple things, they are banking them into their memories. We may think they don’t see how much we might be hurting, or aching, or keeping all of our
When I was young, and our family was in the midst of what I’m currently experiencing as a parent. We attended church, read our scriptures, and prayed together. We weren’t perfect at all of these things, but my parents tried. When they got divorced, all of the scripture studying, church-going, and family prayer came to a screeching halt. As a 9-year-old, I was so lost and confused. But, with a little time, that foundation that was instilled in me helped me continue those efforts on my own and later in life.
Even though situations such as this are not true for everyone, it was true for me. The daily struggles of diaper changing, dishes, laundry, meals, scriptures, service, and everything in between are just part of a process.
Don’t Stop Telling Them
We’ve just got to keep going. We’ve just got to keep doing these things we think might be meaningless. We have to keep asking our children to help with Family Home Evening. Keep asking them if they remembered to say their prayers. Keep asking them to read their scriptures. Keep telling them they need to help you with the dishes, dinner, laundry, meal planning, sweeping, and cleaning. Don’t give up on your efforts with Come, Follow me, family prayer, and scripture study. Even if it means recommitting every week, then so be it.
Heavenly Father knows your heart and He knows your efforts. Your children will get it someday. They’ll see that their parents are genuinely trying to lead their children back to their Heavenly Father, while also teaching them how to be good people on this earth. Their love and appreciation for you will be strengthened, and great things will happen because of the small and simple things you never gave up doing.